by Eric Baudouy, 2014 The North Face Canada Trail Ambassador
As a man of many dreams and goals, I juggle on a weekly basis between being a Paramedic working night shifts, co-owner of a fitness club (Fitness United), a professional trainer, a father and a lover. People often ask me if and when I sleep to which I usually reply: “Whenever and where ever I can!”
I have a very tightly held schedule with little room for variance. I’ve come to accept and appreciate that time spent with my family is not defined by how much of it we get but by the quality and value that is attached to it. In doing so, I have had to revaluate my personal, career and sports goals. Time is so precious that I only allow people and things of value to fill it up. Then, I make sure that I give them my 100%, one hundred percent of the time.
At the height of my ultra trail training season, my week consists of 6 days of running, 1 day of cross-training and some yoga if time would allow in between my rolling and stretching. So I consider myself a lucky man to have found a loving partner who supports my goals and aids me on a daily basis to achieve them.
It is through fitness that I initially met Velcia and our relationship developed into a partnership and relationship based on mutual respect and shared values. We have also been able to spread our passion for trail running throughout our Fitness United Community by participating in and promoting several local trail running events.
Therefore, my simplistic answer would be yes: it is easier to date a fellow runner. But this applies both ways!
A successful relationship involves respect, understanding and compromise. As a runner, Velcia understands the demands of my training. However, I also must reciprocate by ensuring that I support her goals and training program.
We do not run the same distances but whenever possible, we make sure to participate in the same events, hence sharing in the whole experience and post race thrill. Velcia was also a key member of my aid crew for my first 50miler at TNF Endurance Challenge Bear Mountain and was ready to step in as my pacer had the need arisen. (http://www.fitnessunited.ca/blog/the-40-to-50-transition-tnf-endurance-challenge-bear-mountain-ny-may-3-2014)
Can such a relationship work just as well with a non-runner? I believe it may if and only if your partner also has a passion or hobby that they are able to devote personal time to. Neither person in a relationship wants to feel like the one always giving but never receiving.
Personally, I find that dating a fellow fitness enthusiast and runner has just made it so much simpler for both of us to give and receive. A non-runner would never agree to fartlek with me or let me rub my upper thighs with Vaseline in public! ;)